Your calendar isn’t the problem—it’s a mirror. Discover how your schedule reveals your real priorities and how to reset your rhythm this fall.

Many of us get so busy caring for others and keeping life together that we lose sight of who we truly are. Over time, our roles, routines, and responsibilities can leave us feeling muted, stuck, or unsure of what we really want. The good news? Your true self isn’t gone — she’s still within you, waiting to be remembered and expressed. With small, intentional steps, you can begin to rediscover your identity, reclaim your confidence, and live from a place of authenticity and vibrancy again.

If you’re daydreaming about quitting your job or moving someplace new, pause before packing your bags. Change can feel exciting, but real fulfillment isn’t just about swapping beaches or job titles—it’s about getting honest with yourself. What do you truly need right now? When you realign your life around your values, needs, and what matters most, everything else starts to shift. Instead of chasing a big fix outside of yourself, try making small changes to your routines, boundaries, or outlook right where you are. The new life you’re craving might come from within—not from an address change.

For years, my introduction gave me purpose: “I’m Kathy Goller, diocesan director of youth and young adult ministry.” When I lost that role, I lost not just a job but the sentence that explained who I was. Without it, I felt adrift—“I’m Kathy Goller. Period.” That period hit hard, shaking my sense of self. But what I began to realize is that what I needed wasn’t just a new title—it was a new identity. Identity isn’t tied solely to roles or usefulness. It’s okay to be uncertain, to grieve what’s lost, and to hold space for both sorrow and possibility. Life is changed, not ended. And in that space, we can begin again—quietly, courageously, from the inside out.

Lately, I’ve realized there’s a kind of exhaustion that even a full night’s sleep can’t fix. It’s the soul-deep fatigue that lingers long after you’ve “rested”—the type that makes you feel disconnected or endlessly running on empty. During a heart-to-heart, a friend confessed she was tired… and it wasn’t just about needing a nap. Sometimes, what we need isn’t more rest, but the right kind of care: replenishing empty energy, renewing with fresh inspiration, or pausing to truly reflect. Not all tired is created equal. Our fatigue isn’t weakness—it’s wisdom, a gentle nudge to notice what we truly need. Giving yourself care isn’t indulgent or selfish; it’s how you become whole, not just helpful. What step could you take—today—that actually helps you feel like yourself again? You’re worth that kindness.

Many women I talk to find themselves in the middle of everything—careers, families, caregiving, teams—and often in the middle of a personal shift they didn’t expect. They’re compassionate, capable, and deeply committed, yet tired beyond what any nap can fix. Common whispers emerge: “I wish my life was my own,” “As soon as…” and “I’m not burned out… yet.” These aren’t signs of failure but signals from the soul calling for change. Real transformation doesn’t wait for the chaos to clear; it begins with small, deliberate steps to reclaim time, energy, and identity. I can show you how.

Feeling “fine” but empty inside? Discover how small, brave steps can help you move from quiet resignation to a life full of purpose, passion, and peace.

Struggling with a big decision? This simple four-box matrix goes beyond pros and cons to help you reflect, discern, and move forward with confidence.

This honest reflection from the Lessons from the In-Between series explores how saying no can bravely move us forward in life transitions.

In times of transition, we often need trusted voices to reflect our true strengths back to us. This post explores how outside perspectives and healthy mirrors can guide us through uncertainty, helping us see what’s already within and move forward with greater clarity and confidence.

When life feels uncertain, doing something can feel like control, but sometimes action is just avoidance. True clarity comes from pausing to reflect on who you are becoming, not just what you should do. Knowing your real needs and values helps you move forward with purpose and peace. The in-between is a sacred space for growth, where understanding yourself becomes the foundation for meaningful next steps.

When a chapter closes—not with tragedy, but with the end of a long-held role—we often overlook the grief that quietly follows. I knew I wasn’t going back to my job after 22 years, but I didn’t know where I was headed next, or how to feel about that. Grief isn’t just for loss marked by obvious tragedy; it’s the hidden companion in every transition. Giving ourselves permission to name and feel that grief creates space—not just for sadness, but for healing, growth, and the freedom to explore what comes next.

Sometimes clarity feels out of reach—especially when we’re stuck in the “in-between,” no longer where we were but not yet where we’re going. What I’ve learned is that clarity doesn’t come before action; it comes through it. Taking imperfect steps forward, trusting the process, and reflecting along the way helped me find my next right move. If you’re waiting for perfect clarity, maybe it’s time to start moving instead.

Sometimes clarity feels out of reach—especially when we’re stuck in the “in-between,” no longer where we were but not yet where we’re going. What I’ve learned is that clarity doesn’t come before action; it comes through it. Taking imperfect steps forward, trusting the process, and reflecting along the way helped me find my next right move. If you’re waiting for perfect clarity, maybe it’s time to start moving instead.

For years, I said it like a fact: “I don’t want to be an entrepreneur.” It felt safe—a story I clung to when everything else was uncertain. But sometimes, certainty becomes a cage. It wasn’t until a wise friend gently reminded me, “You know you’re allowed to change your mind, right?” that I realized how much I needed permission to grow. We all carry old stories about who we are, but what if those stories no longer fit? Changing your mind isn’t a flaw—it’s a sign of growth. You’re allowed to reimagine what’s next.

Tomorrow marks my third business anniversary-but the real story began years ago, in grief and quiet whispers. What started as a journal entry during a retreat grew into a calling to help others deepen their spiritual lives and lead with purpose. Every loss, every unexpected turn, has been part of a sacred unfolding-one that continues to inspire and guide me, and those I have the privilege to serve.

Whether you’re feeling stuck, stretched thin, or starting something new, coaching acts as a catalyst for personal growth-much like tending a garden. When you’re stuck, coaching helps “turn the compost,” transforming life’s heavy moments into fertile ground for new growth. If you’re stretched, it provides the support of a trellis, helping you focus your energy and prune what no longer serves you. And when you’re starting fresh, coaching offers the safe, nurturing environment of a greenhouse, giving you space to build confidence and take root before stepping into new challenges. No matter your season, coaching offers clarity, support, and the tools to help you grow into your next chapter.

The final “People” P in the REALIFE 7 P’s of Business™ is often the most powerful-and painful. The right people can energize your mission; the wrong ones can wear you down. It’s not just about employees-it’s about building a supportive ecosystem that includes virtual assistants, coaches, and a community that truly understands you. Reflecting on who fuels or drains your energy and courageously asking for help can transform your work and sustain your purpose. Aligning your people with your vision is key to lasting success.

Are you stuck in a cycle of constant crisis, always putting out fires but never getting ahead? Reactive leadership drains your energy, clouds your clarity, and steals your joy. The REALIFE 7 P’s of Business™ framework helps you break free by identifying and solving the real problems beneath the surface. Instead of just managing symptoms, you’ll build intentional systems that create sustainable growth and purpose-driven success. It’s time to stop surviving the chaos and start leading with clarity, confidence, and calm.

Effective business processes are crucial for clarity and resilience. Without them, tasks feel overwhelming, mistakes recur, and leadership becomes burdensome. Well-designed systems, however, streamline operations, enhance client experiences, and build credibility. They free leaders from mental overload, allowing others to support them and fostering creativity. By investing in clear processes, businesses can transition from chaos to calm, ensuring sustainable success and growth. This strategic approach helps organizations stay true to their purpose and expand their impact effectively.